Ideal Self

In-congruent and Congruent

The words in-congruent and congruent reflect how similar a person's ideal-self and self-image can be in real life.
First, what is ideal-self ? Well, ideal-self is how you want yourself to be , on the other hand, self-image is how you are in real life.
Just like the figure above, the more the two of them overlap, the more congruent they are, and the more ideal of you wanted yourself to be.

What's the benefits of this congruent thingy in life? It helps you to be more like you wanted yourself to be and build your self-esteem. A person with higher self-esteem tends to have more overlap between his/her ideal-self and self-image. Having high self-esteem leads you to be more confident in life, ready to bounce back up whenever you fall, cheerful, optimistic and appreciate life better.

Researcher Carl Rogers stated that a self-concept consists of:
(i) The view you have of yourself (Self-image)
(ii) How much value you place on yourself (Self-esteem or Self-worth)
(iii) What you wish you were really like (Ideal-self)

Stop wasting time having emotional thoughts, blaming time and others. 

Be brave and decide what you wanna be. 

Buy some nice cloths

Follow your dreams

Build yourself

Learn some talent

Put It Down And Move On

So, before this, I had some bad anger management problem, and I always put those things that i don't like in my heart for a long time. I always think of revenge and hatred . Well, i did change after seeing this story.

小和尚第一次跟着老和尚下山。

小和尚很聪慧，是老和尚的得意弟子，自信可以不受红尘俗世的沾染，一路上心里很平静。

徒步走到半山腰，遇到一条小河和一个美丽的少妇。前夜山上暴雨，冲垮了河上的独木桥。

当下那少妇正焦虑不安的在河边徘徊，看到师徒二人，立刻发出了求助。

小和尚不敢多做停留，看也没敢多看一眼，慌忙自顾自地脱掉鞋袜，径直躺过河去。

回头看老和尚，只见老和尚二话没说，背起那少妇正朝岸边走来。

小和尚很纳闷，为什么师傅平日教导我们不近女色，今日却……

行至山下，小和尚终于忍不住，向老和尚说出了心中的疑问。

老和尚答曰：我在山上就已经把她放下了，你怎么还没有放下？

To put down something that really matters is not easy, to forget and forgive is also not easy, but if we dont do so, our life will be full of misery.

Learn to put it down, forgive and forget, life will totally be enjoyable.

A Surprising Anniversary Card

Yup, for your information, i really don't like to act romantic because it chills my spin and i feel awkward , these feelings happen whenever i watch romantic movies, but... when i do wanna act romantic, i will make sure that my little girlfriend feel as if falling down from the sky.

Anniversary is approaching and i'm looking forward to that day. As what my girlfriend said, i never did anything that surprises her or impresses her, so i am planing to do something secretly to show that i am capable of making her feel romantic.

2 years ago she made these memory cards for my birthday, so i am going to make back a nice anniversary card for her.

So i did some research and found one easy pop up card to make for the anniversary card.

For the ingredients, i went to a stationary shop and bought 2 black papers, gold/silver ink pens and gold/ silver sparkling powders, i bought extra just to test the colours.

And don't forget these.

The first black paper was going to make the hearts. First i fold it half and draw the heart shape, cut it and fold it out.

Then, for the other small hearts,i did it carefully because things got tricky when it's complicated. .

And i did decorate it

For the second black paper, what i did was, i made it as the cover for the folded hearts.i drew a heart shape in the paper and glued some gold sparkling powder.Finally, i combined them together. i cut the pop up hearts paper smaller so that it looks nicer.

Thanks god, it took me 2 and a half hour to finish this. I hope she likes it.=)

Prestige

"When performing a task, it is more important to be impeccable than to do it for the sake of prestige. Impeccability naturally result is prestige."- Sayadaw U Pandita

So you may want to know what does prestige means, it simply means that a general respect or admiration felt for someone or something by reason of rank, proved high quality, etc. In Chinese, 威信, 威望, 声望 .

Then what does impeccable means? It means faultless, perfect. In Chinese, 无懈可击, 完美的 .

Do things perfectly but not for fame or higher recognition. Sometimes doing things perfectly may bring you a higher recognition. In real life, we humans tend to do things to show off or to gain a higher respect from the people around us and we did simply forget to do things perfectly and faultlessly. And for most of the time when we perform task just for prestigious we end up having the opposite effects,....."shame".







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Thamane ,K., U,K.K., Arannavasi, and Hor,T.L., (1994) Raindrops in Hot Summer, Words of Advice from Sayadaw U Pandita. Malaysia: Malaysian Buddhist Medication Centre.